Kissing should never be taken lightly, it is an incredible art and demonstration of passion that should be mastered by all. Knowing how to kiss can make or break the beginning of a relationship and can also maintain a fiery spark in well established relationships.
Everyone from rookies to (theoretical) seasoned professionals can improve their kissing techniques and strategies. There is no limit to incorporating new practices.
Kissing has to be one of the most important things when it comes to a relationship; “Both men and women use kissing for judging the potential of a short-term relationship evolving into a long-term relationship“.
Your kiss will be remembered and cherished for a long time – “Ask most people and they remember their first kiss in all its detail; the location, the way it felt, how it made them feel and how their partner tasted”.
Do you know how to kiss? Or, do you think you know how to kiss. An unsupported fact is that most guys are bad kissers and pull off some outstanding awkward first (and regular) kisses.
The awkward kiss is certainly 0ne to be avoided – you are anticipating a fantastic moment with fireworks going off – instead something goes terrible wrong and a period of awkwardness sets in. This can be extremely disappointing for both the guy and the girl.
This does not have to be the case. Knowing how to kiss for results will initially require some basic skills and a few golden rules. Ultimately, everyone will develop their own unique style.
Before we address some fundamentals of how to kiss, lets review the benefits of being a good kisser. The Why before the How!
How To Kiss – Why Be A Good Kisser?
Here are just a few very good reasons to learn how to kiss properly.
- First impressions are critical.
- Don’t be the talk of the town among the girls.
- Avoid the “Just Friends” category.
- Earn respect from the woman.
- For a woman, chemistry is either THERE, or it ISN’T and first kiss chemistry is vital.
- Connect and relate on emotions.
- Healthy and sensual.
- Its is delightfully fun.
The best kisses are so much more than the actual physical lip to lip contact – the buildup to the kiss, including touch, eye contact, intimacy and conversation will lead to the greatest and most satisfying kisses. This will be the most fun you ever had with your clothes on!
Here are just a few of the biggest reasons why some kisses are spectacular, while others turn out to – not so spectacular!.
1. Is There An Emotional Connection
[pullquote align=”right” textalign=”right” width=”30%”]The sound of a kiss is not so loud as that of a cannon, but its echo lasts a great deal longer.[/pullquote]
What causes fireworks when a kiss happens? It is a deep emotional connection and this is very important for the amazing kiss. When the physical pleasure of a kiss combines with the emotional pleasure of sharing an intimate moment, fireworks can happen.
2. Great Comfort Level.
One of the great killers of the pleasure of kissing is nerves. The more nervous you are, the tenser you feel. Tension makes you stiff and unyielding – the complete opposite of what a great kisser should be!
For many people the shear stress and anticipation of the kiss destroys the moment. When you are stressed about the result or self-conscious about whether you’re doing it right, you give up your chances of enjoying the moment like you should. Even worse, you will communicate this tension onto your partner. Knowing how to kiss will give you the confidence to put all this stress and anxiety aside.
Great kisses always relax, go with the flow and thoroughly enjoy the moment. It can be the way it can be for anyone!
3. Ignore Distractions.
The ultimate in kisses seem to last forever. Your mind so clear of everything and you are concentrating on your partner’s breath, responses, murmurs, and the feeling of their body against yours.It can be difficult to ignore the surroundings if you’re in a noisy environment, other people in the vicinity, or are in an uncomfortable position.
For example, despite the unusual tendency to use cars as a makeout location, they can be terribly uncomfortable. Cars do not allow for enough body positioning to achieve that great kissing posture.
Also, if you’re feeling self-conscious about your kissing technique or wondering if others are watching, you’ll bring yourself out of the moment and back to earth.
Clear your head the next time you kiss and let nothing else be on your mind. Concentrate in a relaxed way, and get into the moment!
If you really want the fireworks in that makeout session – dump the car!
4. Imagination.[pullquote align=”right” textalign=”right” width=”30%”]Kiss me and you will see how important I am.[/pullquote]
Great kissers don’t keep doing the same thing over and over; they understand their partners desires and experiment with different kinds of kisses. Experimentation can take your kissing to the next level. If your complete kissing portfolio consists of only two styles – kiss and French kiss – then it likely time to investigate more possibilities – and there are many to consider.
For example; change the pace and pressure of your kisses, expand and contract from the mouth and kiss the eyelids, neck, even nibble the ear. Be inventive.[pullquote align=”right” textalign=”right” width=”30%”]A kiss makes the heart young again and wipes out the years.[/pullquote]
Good kissing demonstrates grace and style, starting gently, with slight variations of pressure on the lips. Match your partners breathing and sense the beating hearts – be totally aware of everything in that zone between you and her. Pause occasionally with the meeting of one another’s eyes. “Rhythm” .Many have referred to a kiss as a “dance of the lips”. All dances have elements of rhythm, tempo and timing – your kiss should incorporate all of these elements;
Rhythm – Allow your kiss to warm up and eventually cool down. Reconnect with your partner by catching his or her eyes.
Tempo – My best analogy would be the Rumba – a not so fast and not so slow movement, yet very graceful and always flowing.
Timing – everything is your timing and getting it right. Not too early and not too late.
Remember, there is no rush in a kiss regardless how anxious you for your lips to make contact. Let your kiss find your own natural rhythm. Your rhythm will be unique to you and your personality.
If you really care about someone, are completely relaxed, there in the moment, and allow your kissing to find its natural rhythm and expression, you’ll find that your kisses become much more intense and enjoyable.
How To Kiss – New Kissers Advice
The MOST important piece of advice is “fresh breath”, followed by moist lips. Nothing is going to kill this moment more than bad breath. I believe it was Madonna who once quoted – “every man should kiss another man at least once”. Her referral (so rumor has it) is to the bad breathe issue.
- A Kiss is not a gift so don’t expect ANYTHING in return.
- A golden rule of great kissing is make it last, take your time, and slow down. Many, if not most men rush through kissing like it was something totally unappealing.
- Treat every kiss as a special opportunity to captivate her with your skills. Your attention is totally on her satisfaction and not yours. This will bring out the ultimate in kisses.
- Never approach a kiss with an open mouth, or an extended tongue. A partially open mouth is the best approach, follow her lead. French Kiss only if she leads you.
- Don’t go all the way in when leading for a kiss – go about 90% of the way in and let her do the final 10%.
- Never open your mouth wider than your kissing partner’s lips.
- Vary your lip pressure slightly.
- Do something with your hands! With a new partner start with limiting this to cradling her face and head, or the nape of her neck.
Don’t overdo the kiss, this may express neediness should you desire to kiss too often.
If you are going for the first kiss, make it short – a few seconds will do just fine. Any longer and you will be simply allowing more potential to get into an awkward kiss. Of course, if your partner is clearly wanting more, I don’t think you will have much choice in the matter.
Not sure if the moment is right – ASK – she will appreciate the request.
Don’t end the kiss too quickly, pull away slowly and keep smiling. I hope this gives you some insight on How To Kiss. Don’t forget the critical part – its how TWO kiss!
Be a Good Kisser and Happy Kissing!
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